The Witch's Spirit Lover


Sustaining a Romantic Relationship with a Dead Familiar

The witch’s spirit lover and familiar is a spirit of the dead who forms a romantic and lifelong bond with a witch offering them passion, care and guidance throughout their practice of the craft—they may act as a teacher or servant for the witch. This is a relationship that is based upon mutual respect and love. The spirit lover may be a soulmate or even a familial spirit of the witch’s kin, but the witch also has the ability to cultivate a romantic relationship with a spirit by summoning one themselves (a spirit cannot be forced into this—both the witch and spirit must be in agreement).

Bonding with a spirit lover was a crucial part of my bloodline’s practice of traditional witchcraft. My witch mothers harnessed power through the art of sex magic and found catharsis in romantic vitality—they would often invoke their dead familiars during coven gatherings, partaking in copulation with their spirit lovers throughout the Sabbat. My family’s traditions have taught me how to intensify my relationship with the dead (which has proven to be very rewarding) through hedgecrossing, which I will discuss in the next part of this article. 

When a witch is bonded with a spirit lover/dead familiar, it is imperative that this relationship flourishes, as this strengthens a witch’s magic and spellcasting and blooms passion within the heart. Though the familiar may be worshipped and cared for with offerings from the witch, copulating in the spirit realm is a beautiful way to cherish this passionate bond.


The Art of Hedgecrossing

Hedgecrossing is the practice of traveling outside of the physical body and passing into the Otherworld. When a witch crosses into the spirit realm, they have the ability to speak to the dead and interact intimately with their deities, spirits and loved ones. Hedgecrossing was the most effective way for my relatives to further develop their relationships with their spirit lovers/dead familiars. They were able to do this by crafting flying ointment (used to aid a witch in crossing into the Otherworld). In last month’s issue, you will find my recipe for a salve for sensual hedgecrossing. It was crafted to help a witch partake in sexual relations with their spirit lover. In this article, I will teach you how to use it.

How to Bond with A Spirit Lover and Familiar

After crafting a flying ointment for sensual hedgecrossing and allowing it to age in your cupboard, coat your body in the salve from head to toe, careful not to cover parts of your body that may be irritated by the ointment.

Find a place to relax and meditate—this can be in a dark bedroom or out in nature in the middle of the night (which I find works best). Close your eyes and concentrate on connecting your energy to the spirit you are wanting to bond with. During this time, the flying ointment will aid you in slipping into a trance-like state—you may begin lucid dreaming. Witches’ flight can be achieved naturally but might require practice for some. Be patient with yourself. It is important to remember that you must let yourself go. Let your body dissolve around you and do not overthink this practice. Embrace the blackness that you see and feel your spirit fall away into another world.

When your spirit begins to leave your body, you will feel as if you are floating and all of your senses may be heightened. Often times, the witch will see their physical body below them as they separate from it. As you make your way through the veil to the Otherworld, take care not to follow clouded areas that feel unsafe. Understand that there are risks that come with spirit flight—many things exist in this realm. Always protect yourself and call upon your guides if you need them.

After bonding with your spirit lover in the Otherworld, begin returning to the physical plane. Ease back into your body. Allow yourself to gently return to the world of the living and expect that you may feel light-headed from crossing between the veil. Make sure to wash off the flying ointment after spirit flight.

Find more information on flying ointment and my salve for sensual hedgecrossing in Witch Way Magazine’s November 2018 issue.

Effy Winter is a hereditary blood witch and descendant of the Queen of Scottish Witches. She carries on the traditions and spellwork of her witch mothers, primarily working with the Devil throughout her practice of the craft. In her spare time, Effy works as a writer for various literary publications. She is the author of Flowers of the Flesh (Rhythm & Bones Press, 2019), a collection of poetry stirred by romance and dark witchcraft.